There are specific situations in life that repeat themselves until we learn to grow through what we go through. Sometimes we face challenges because there is a lesson that we are supposed to learn from to continue growing in our lifetime. However, there are times when people fail to grasp the lesson life gives them. It might have been because they weren't ready for it or because they chose to let situations define who they are.
I have been guilty of doing all of those. There were times when I wasn’t ready to learn a lesson that life wanted me to learn. It has to lead me to reject the lesson and situations. Weather I just wasn't ready for it or was too stubborn to accept what I needed to learn, it has to lead me to ignore the lesson altogether.
The hardest part about neglecting something you are supposed to do is that it comes back as double the amount of work for you. Let me tell you, this is never a good route! It is like failing to clean the dishes all day and waiting for it to pile up in the sink. When you face your mess right away, it’s easier to manage.
Situations, events, and even relationships can all take a big part in our life, that can define the things we do. But the best relationships will only bring out part of who you already are and help you become the best version of yourself. Circumstances can have a big toll on someone's life but at the end of the day, it is the lesson learned is what will define one's world. Choose to learn a lesson that can make you great. Regardless of the pain, it will always be better to deal with your mess right away.
Knowing your worth and learning to have gratitude for the chapters in your life, will be your answer to letting things go. If you ever had to learn to let anything go then you know it can be very painful and it can feel nearly impossible. This is why I believe it is important to try to let go by looking intuitionally at why you feel the way you do. I am certain that if you stop focusing on the pain or the emotions that you are feeling, you will be able to focus on what really helps you move on.
Regardless of your situation, there are certain steps that you can do to help yourself. These are the steps I have been taking that helps me every time.
1. The very first step you can do is to pause and clear your mind from all the clutter. Know that you are in control, so pause your emotions, and stop your mind from falling down the rabbit hole. Don't let anything control your thoughts that you don’t want to invite in your life. After all, our thoughts become actions, and it can permanently control you. Do yourself a favor and set your mental state into thinking that negativity should never take over, and you will feel more at ease.
2. Focus on the things you do have, and learn how to be grateful. Imagine yourself losing everything you do have, and let yourself realize that there is always something to be grateful for. I choose to not be about materialistic things that this world offers. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy nice things but I know my limits. I know the difference between a want and a need but most importantly I know that there isn’t a “thing” out there that can bring me true happiness. Accept that there will always be something that you want and might never get.
3. Ask yourself, if today was the last day you lived, would you allow yourself to feel the way that you do? Would you let yourself suffer, and go through the emotions that are only temporary?
4. Know your worth because it will set the tone on how people will treat you. Think about your worth and what your value is to this world. Learn to mute the sounds of other people opinions, and only let things in that help you grow to whom you already are. I had the pleasure in learning the recent months what my worth really is. This is something I have never really thought about before until I have met someone who truly valued themselves regardless of what others opinions were.
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